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No matter how many times you must have fought with your sister & jokingly told her to go get married and leave the house, the moment you see her all decked up as a bride, your heart instantly goes out to say ‘Abhi Na Jao Chhod Kar, Ye Dil Abhi Bhara Nahi!’ Well, that’s the kind of bond a brother shares with her sister. From being her first enemy to her personal cheerleader, favourite food partner & the only person she shares her secrets with, brothers truly are the real superheroes for their sisters. And just how superheroes have some duties to perform, so do brothers, especially when it comes to their sissy’s Big day. Right from accompanying her for those non-stop shopping trips, taking charge of the sangeet performances, walking her down the aisle to making her wedding day every bit dreamy, duties of a brother are umpteen. And to make sure you as a brother don’t miss out on any, we’ve compiled the ultimate checklist of duties that every brother must take note of. Scroll down and check for yourself!

Ultimate Wedding Checklist for the Brothers of the Brides

Pre-wedding duties

First things first, accompany her for important vendor meets

With so much going on at her end, she'd definitely want someone to support her and be there by her side to deal with the vendors, take their quotes, negotiate the prices and come to a conclusion. So be there for her and make sure she doesn't lose her calm during all these important meets.

Take her out for endless shopping sessions and salon visits

For brides, pre-wedding scenes are all about non-stop shopping, never-ending salon visits and constant hopping from one market to the other in search of jewellery, outfits, footwear, favours and what not. And there's completely no one other than her darling brother i.e. YOU who can be her personal escort and help her make her wedding planning a lot easier & fun.

Plan a fun all-cousin get together

Host a fun & glitzy bash or a pyjama themed party with only her friends and cousins in the guest list. It can be a perfect kickstarter to all the wedding celebrations and might instantly get everyone into the festive mood.

Keep in a constant loop with all the vendors

Once the photographer, decorator, planner and all the other vendors are finalized, take the responsibility of following up with them as the big day nears. Communicate all the requirements and expectations beforehand to avoid any last minute glitches.

How about planning a quick family getaway right before the wedding madness kicks in?

If she had been longing for a family vacay for quite some time now, it's your whole and sole duty to plan one for her before she gets married. Get all the bookings and arrangements done and just ask everyone to pack their bags for this much-awaited vacay. Also, don't forget to capture all the fun and happy moments, so she (and of course you all too) has something to gush over later.

Dedicate a special Sangeet performance to her

While all the bridesmaids and family performances are way too obvious & are sure to get her thrilled, let yours be a total surprise package to leave her stunned & go all emotional one last time. Pick a song that best describes your bond with her and set the stage ablaze with your crazy moves.

Plan a surprise for her, because if not now then when?

Who doesn't like surprises? Well, we all do and so would your sissy. And this indeed is the right time to shower her with some surprises. So, maybe gift her a surprise bachelorette trip with her girlies at an exotic location or compile a mushy video with all of her favourite people sending her truckloads of love & luck for her new phase of life.

Make a WhatsApp group of all the family members & her friends

You just can't do away with all the wedding planning without a mandatory WhatsApp group that has all the chachas, mamas, buas & the entire wedding clan on board. So, ensure that you make one a month or two before the wedding for easy communication and to get everyone on the same page. You can easily share the sangeet performance routine, wedding timeline, dress code if any or any change of plan that needs immediate intimation.

Coordinate with her bridesmaids

After you, it's definitely her crazy bunch of bridesmaids who will forever be ready to take up some responsibilities. Which is why having them in your team is always a win-win. Whether it is planning for joota chhupai, keeping the guests entertained throughout the wedding or giving the ladkewalas a tough competition on the dance floor, you can always rope them in for all of the above and then coordinate with them to make her day a lit affair.

Wedding Day Duties

Reaching the venue before time to check all the arrangements

To make sure everything is on point, cross-check with all the vendors on the day of the wedding. See if any alterations need to be done at the venue and get them fixed before the baraat arrives.

Planning a grand welcome for your Jiju

Being the brother of the bride, it is your utmost duty to give your jiju and all the baraatis a warm & extravagant welcome. So, get some of the best artists, dance performers, dholwalas and other fire-cracking elements for their welcome and make it one lit affair. 

Ensuring there's enough booze

After all, that's one important element to get the grand celebrations started. So, make sure you have adequate booze supply.

Walking her down the aisle

Make her bridal walk down the aisle even more special by being there by her side, walking hand in hand or maybe holding her phoolon ki chaadar and escorting her to the stage.

Making sure she is well-fed

Amidst all those boisterous wedding rituals and proceedings, there's a possibility that she ends up eating little or nothing at all. And being a caring brother that you are, you can probably just appoint a particular person who keeps feeding her with yummy savouries in short intervals and treats her hunger pangs.

Aiding the saalis in Joota Chhupai

Gang up with all the saalis and curate a fool-proof Joota Chhupai plan to shell out some free bucks from your Jiju.

Keeping all the guests entertained

Another important thing to take care of is ensuring that all relatives and friends are enjoying as much as the bride and groom. Shake a leg with them on the dance floor or get them boozing hard to make them have the best times of their lives ever.

Dearest brideys, tag your brothers and ask them to note down all these duties beforehand!

Anupriya Khanna

Author, WeddingBazaar

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