A few months ago, as I was inching closer towards my final semester exams, an aunt accosted me with questions on Why you no married yet? She had managed to successfully find partners for her daughter before she hit 21 and expected my parents to do the same. Since my final sems were too scary for me to even respond to her , I walked away. But now that I try to analyse the situation, why do people get married? Here are some interesting replies I came across :
1) “ Chaar log kya kahenge?”
These 4 people, mostly, nameless faces have defined a lot of what we do or wish to do. Marred by the prospects of societal judgements, many people jump into marriages fearing that the society will judge them if they haven’t found partners to spend the rest of their lives with. The chaar log might be extended family or neighbors but the constant attention is enough to propel many into marriage.
2) “ Sab shaadi kar rahe hai”
There is nothing more fearful than seeing all batchmates and schoolmates getting hitched one after the other for this kind. As they wake up to a new day, there is another wedding to attend. The mere thought of seeing others settling into the “happily married quota” makes this group frantically registered themselves across multiple matrimonial sites and agencies until they finally hit the right spot!
3) “ Parents ka pressure”
This is one of the most common reasons I came across. Very often, parents badly want to see their children seeking marital comforts. The quenching desire to see a tiny tot in the houses is another pressing issue. Coupled with all this is the worry that their kid may not find suitable partners as they get older.
4) “Because, I want to!”
I was overjoyed to hear this. This category strongly believe that they have spent enough and more of their lives by themselves. They think they have reached a marriageable age not out of any external pressure but by themselves. The joy of starting a new life with someone they love / they have not met yet seems very exciting for them.
5) “ Horoscope problems”
The kundli has been known to throw different kinds of twists. Horoscope matching is a must before marriages and some unfortunate souls have their horoscopes saying stuff like if they do not get married before a certain age, they may not find a partner at all. Even the most celebrated couple Abhishek-Aishwarya Rai were seen performing a lot of rituals to overcome horoscope issues.
6) “ They’re going to fix my marriage with someone else”
The age-old lovers’ dilemma. They love one while the family loves someone else. In the event of a clash of clans, the only solution to many couples is to quickly marry their loved one or let go of them. The latter becomes too painful a thought to happen and therefore, they settle for the former option of marrying them.
7) “Pata nahin mujhe bhi!”
This was the most surprising lot. They did not have an answer themselves. They just knew that they would get married but had no clue as to why. They thought for over 5 minutes but had no answer except for a grin plastered on their faces along with a look of cluelessness! There would of course be a plethora of other reasons for people in India to get hitched. While some bow down to parental pressures, others marry on their own volition or to explore a new,exciting life. Whatever be the case, here’ wishing every one of these nameless faces, a very happy married life whenever they get married! :-) :-)